As great as the Panic at the Disco song is, it would be really nice for pop culture to recognize bi dudes as well.
There is still a misconception among a lot of people that while women are more sexually fluid, men are either gay or straight and there’s no possible in-between.
NOT THE CASE.
BISEXUAL MEN. WE EXIST.
Need help understanding FTM pregnancy.
First of all, this will sound offensive, but I PROMISE no offense is meant. I view this as MY problem alone, not anyone elses. With that context in mind:
I am a transman, on testosterone for many years and had top surgery a couple years ago. I do not want and do not plan to have kids (which I admit may contribute to all of this). I see on the news and in my personal life transmen who make the decision to drop hormones and get pregnant. The thought of this terrifies* me as I can’t understand someone who wants to be fully male enough to be on hormones and have surgery and yet do the most distinct act of being female there is… Pregnancy is THE epitome of being female in my opinion, and my rationale is purely scientific. (*By terrify, I mean for example when I found out my gay FTM friend is pregnant by his cismale boyfriend, I went into a fetal-position, half-hour long, hysterical-crying-to-the-point-of-not-breathing panic attack - which I don’t understand!) My knee-jerk reaction is to be repulsed by it… It seems “grotesque” to me. This is not a feeling I have about really anything else in the world.
Well, I don’t want to see it as such. I have battled this mental hurdle for years now, trying to be open-minded and accepting of this kind of decision. It isn’t enough to just say I should respect others decisions and everyone is different and I am not them so I can’t understand. I want to TRULY get over this. I want to really, really understand and comprehend the feelings/thoughts behind this.
Please help me understand, and please be kind… I sincerely apologize if I have triggered or offended anyone.
Milo (needsmoreandroidslashfic), care to comment?
Since you’ve had one child and are currently expecting another?
Personally though, the way I see it, you’re male if you identify as male.
And nothing that you do with your body changes that.
If you identify as male, and you get pregnant, you’re a pregnant male.
Sure, the societal norm is that women have babies.. but sometimes men have the means to have them too (the ones like us who have uteruses, ovaries, etc).. and while many of us may not like the idea of pregnancy for ourselves.. for some of us, using what we’ve got is our only option if we want biological children and can’t afford egg harvesting or surrogates or adoption and those of us who don’t have a partner who can carry a child either.
It’s not about wanting an experience that “only females have”.. it’s about wanting kids so bad you’re willing to do what’s necessary, and if pregnancy is the only way, then so be it.
I have nothing but the utmost respect for trans men who choose to get pregnant.. because I know it’s a huge sacrifice. You can’t take hormones while pregnant, everything re-feminizes (if you’ve previously been on testosterone).. estrogen takes over and can make you an emotional mess.. everything swells up.. and then eventually, you have to use your “female” parts to give birth to the baby.
Yeah, for most of us, that may be pretty off-putting..
But some of us are willing to go through all that, because that’s how bad they want a child.. you know?
It’s important to note that we’re all different, and we all have varying degrees of gender dysphoria. Some of us are repulsed by our female parts, and some of us don’t mind having them or using them at all.
Just because you have dysphoria surrounding your “female” bits, doesn’t mean every trans man is going to. We’re not cookie cutter. This stuff affects all of us in different ways.
Understanding that, I think, is the key to understanding why trans men would want to get pregnant (or use their genitals for pleasure, or anything else like that).
The bottom line though, is that being pregnant doesn’t make you female.
It just means you have the parts that make it possible.
Using those parts if you happen to identify as male, doesn’t make you any less male. It makes you one tough son of a bitch.
Talking about phalloplasty.
Brother:To be honest, size doesn't really matter, but i can understand if you have the choice, why not go for the full Shabang. The scar is totally going to make you look like a bad-ass who broke his arm trying to jump the great wall of china on rollerblades
In the wake of the Barilla chairman’s anti-gay remarks, rival pasta makers leaped at the chance to proclaim their support for gay rights and marriage equality.
WHY IS THIS ENTIRE THING SO FUNNY TO ME
Catelli Canada has commented:
”Catelli has proudly embraced all Canadian families for over five generations. We believe that pasta meals bring us all together.”
Seriously. This makes me so angry. Why is this perfectly okay and funny to post, but if this was a photo of a bunch of black girls, and the caption was “hide yo fried chicken” then everyone would flip shit like “ERMAGERD THAT’S SO RACIST HOW CAN YOU LIVE WITH YOURSELF OMG”
Because there is no such thing as reverse racism.
Whine all you want, but white people have always had it eleventy-billion times better than any person of color.
And historically, white people treated people of color like crap. Many of us still do.
So we have no right to whine that we’re “being discriminated against” for being white. There is no such thing as racism against white people.
That’s just fucking ridiculous.
Get over yourself.
Dom knows the Craic. Clever clever man
Yeah like I get that. I don’t think anything turns you gay you just are.
[and of course that all being said, sexuality can be fluid for some people, and I should clarify that I don’t mean to say there are only two sexualities - gay and straight - there are several.. and liking dudes as a trans man doesn’t necessarily mean you’re gay.. I was just giving an example. =) ]
Consider this: nothing would be the same if you did not exist. Every place you have ever been and everyone you have ever spoken to would be different without you."
100 Simple Secrets of Happy People by David Niven, Ph. D. (via dune-femme)
I’m surprised that “anti social justice” people haven’t started making “check ur feminism privilege” jokes yet.
I suspect that most of them are not actually familiar enough with genuine social justice arguments to parody them so specifically.
Why do anti social justice people even exist?
I was attacked by a bunch of them recently.. I didn’t even really do much more than express an opinion.. I guess I used a social justice term? Ableism. And I was attacked and called a “social justice warrior”.
I do not, nor have I ever, identified as a social justice warrior. I’m an activist to a degree, but I’m not militant about it.. nor do I “dogpile” people like I was accused of. Or lumped into the category of social justice activists who do that.
It was a weird situation. I had to change my Tumblr URL.. because these anti SJ morons were stalking my page and analyzing everything I said.
But back to why anti social justice people exist..
Do people really feel that threatened by social change?
¡Feliz día para todos los bisexuales!
23 de Setiembre :: Día internacional de la bisexualidad
I’m late to the party, but yay, bisexuality!
all scars are battle scars.
Friend:So are you going to get a penis?
Me:I'm not sure. So... tell me about your vagina?
Friend:*blushes* What the hell? No!
Me:Yeh, it's uncomfortable being asked about your genitals, isn't it?
I have been waiting for weeks to send a message here. I am extremely scared. For years, I have questioned my identity as a woman, and always felt “wrong”. I have discussed it with my very close friends, and I think that I may be trans and for more than just the reason I stated here. I am so scared…
Pregnant trans guy here who already has a two year old. Feel free to hit up my ask box :)
[Most people call me Dom.]
I'm 30 years old,
and I live in Calgary, Alberta, Canada.
I'm a non-binary trans guy (FTM),
and for all intents and purposes, I'm done my transition.
I'm a trans activist, educator, and mentor.
If you need someone to talk to, feel free to send me a message. I'm here for you!