Me at Calgary Pride 2012, marching with TESA (The Trans Equality Society of Alberta).
Yes, I made the sign. You can’t see it, but the letters are all glittery!
Don’t be alarmed, I didn’t cut my hair off, it’s in a ponytail! =)
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We recently discovered why we’ve been seeing an asterisk next to “trans” so we decided to send out a post that explains it. Check out this picture and visit ItsPronouncedMetrosexual.com.
The word “transvestite” should not be in this. It’s a derogatory and offensive term.
The proper term is “crossdresser”. I’m shocked that it’s not even on there.
Good effort though.
EDIT: Also, I really don’t think the term should not be right next to transsexual. In my opinion, it sends the wrong message to people who know nothing about the trans* community.
My 10 year highschool reunion is coming up, so I put this together, for my classmates who are on facebook and may stumble upon my profile on the facebook group and wonder who I am. It’s a lot easier than explaining!
I graduated in 2002, and it’s now 2012.. but these were the best photos I could find for a comparison.
This is the cutest thing ever!
And of course I can also relate.
Hey guys, Dominic here.
I’m a 29 year old femme FTM.
In light of the recent ignorant anonymous comment, I thought I would share this video I made a year ago, about what makes a person a man.
I go into society’s definition of what a “man” is, and define what I think makes a person a man, or simply, male.
[Video footage used:
Scatterheart performing “more than a man” in Fall 2009, and Spring 2010.. and a scene from a movie called “Victor/Victoria” from 1982, featuring Julie Andrews as Victor/Victoria.. a struggling soprano singer who makes it big when she pretends she is a gay male, and takes a job as a female impersonator.]
“More than a man” by Scatterheart, of course.
My personal YouTube channel (rarely updated):http://youtube.com/xtwoofheartsx
My personal Tumblr:
My trans-related Tumblr:
Hope you all get something out of this video, and remember there is no wrong way to be a man. Or any other gender, for that matter ;)
Thanks! That means a lot coming from you!
lol @ YouTube comment:
“wtf r u doing to yourself your a girl not a guy chemicals cant change that…ur a mess”
Oh yes, because that’s TOTALLY how it works! Oops.. I’ve already been on testosterone for four years and I chopped off my boobs and had my reproductive organs scooped out.. shit! Whatever am I going to do?! I’m such a mess!
Don’t know if this is allowed but
I met this amazing transman on Omegle and just as I was going to ask them if they had facebook, tumblr, or anything we could keep contact on it disconnected because I lost my net connection due to a storm. I really, really enjoyed speaking with this person and this was the only place I could think of to possibly run into them so I decided to post this.
I myself am a transman and to better help this person find me if they follow this blog we spoke of cosplay, dir en grey, Asagi from the band D, sewing, singing and guitar, the fact we’re both demisexual, and things similar to that. I know the fact I’m going out of my way to find this person may seem creepy, but this is how much I enjoy speaking with this person and I have never had so much in common with someone before.
I can be found at http://kingofthecannibals.tumblr.com
Thank you for your time.
If you’re trans* too, why can’t you use male pronouns when referring to this guy? =/
Unless of course he prefers gender neutral pronouns.. but you really went out of your way to avoid using male pronouns.. why?
From the Huffington Post. This is a very simple, easy-to-follow article that might be helpful to pass on to friends and family members who need some help understanding or who you’re just now coming out to.
Thinking of stop T
Does anyone know how much time takes to came back the menses period after stop T? I know it takes some mounths but…how many?
It took about 6 months for mine to return, but it is different for everyone.
Please make sure you are going off T for the right reasons. Stopping testosterone can cause serious problems. At least it did for me.
Emotional instability, severe depression, suicidal thoughts, body re-feminization (my thighs, butt, and hips got bigger again.. shoulders got smaller and less broad, face became more feminine, and even my mannerisms changed), and a few other things.
Whether or not you continue taking T is ultimately your decision, and not being on it doesn’t make you any less trans*, but messing around with your hormones can cause some serious problems, so just make sure going off T is right for you.
Problematic and discriminatory comment from someone WITHIN the FTM community (TW)
“No, actually. Being comfortable with one’s genitalia has nothing to do with gender identity. Some transmen — MANY, actually, are comfortable with what they’ve got between their legs and use it for sexual gratification, and it DOESN’T make them any less male. Your biggest problem is that you equate physical sex with gender. That’s the kind of bullshit cisgender people say to us. When you say shit like this, or have these kinds of views, you’re oppressing people in your OWN community.”
You can respond to the comment(s) at the following link:
trigger warning: cissexism, other things i dont know how to warn for probably
oh, ok. It’s good to know that everyone’s ~magical intent~ makes everything fine and dandy.
Great. Now that everything’s figured out, let me just…
—and take a motherfucking seat. Don’t pull the “oh, you people are sooo sensitive” condescending bullshit. This is something people have a legitimate fucking problem with.
Just because it doesn’t offend you personally doesn’t mean that others aren’t offended by that word being tossed around so blithely. it is a cissexist slur, a word used to hurt trans* individuals (and others who don’t fit someone else’s ideal of gender presentation, but the word is mainly thrown at trans* people and trans*women especially [ and I must put in a note that the people most in danger are trans*women of color ]). And by hurt I don’t mean bruised feelings, I mean hurt as in as in attempted and successful murder of trans* people, especially trans*women.
and just like every other slur, the only people who have the fucking right to reclaim that word into something positive are those who’ve had that word used against them/belong to the group who has had that word used against them.
So, no. I am not taking it the wrong way.
You and Victoria and the Victorians may not have intended it to be a ridiculously offensive move of gross ignorance, but intent is not magical.
That word isn’t yours to have fun with, and that’s not just my opinion: it’s a fact.
Hi Buck Angel..My name is Luke
Hi Buck Angel..My name is Luke…I’m trans and I don’t know what to do anymore.
I want to be a boy, but I feel like if I have to be a boy, I have to be super manly..
I’ve been crying on and off for so long because I still like girl things and I don’t know if I’m allowed to…
You can be whatever you want!! There is no right or wrong way to be a boy or a man!
Just be yourself!
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
There is no wrong way to be trans. You don’t have to fit a stereotype.
Please check out this response I gave to another transguy with similar concerns:
Also, watch this video.
In this video, I talk about what makes a person a “man”, and how this pertains to FTM’s as well.
I hope this helps.
The letter I just wrote my mother (TW)
Sorry I haven’t gotten back to you til now.. but I wanted to let you know your card arrived first thing monday morning. Fast eh?! Thank you so much =)
Thanks also for the photos. The boys are so grown up.. it’s insane. I miss them quite terribly.
Christmas is a rough time of year for me. I miss you guys so much it hurts. It’s the only time of year I really drink. Just to get through it.
I wish I didn’t have to be alone. I don’t feel like I have a family.
I often wish I could just be someone you approve of, so that I can be a part of it.
But to be that person you see me as, I’d be miserable.. and I probably wouldn’t want to be alive.
Being this person I am living as now, I am the most stable I’ve ever been in my life. I don’t hurt myself anymore.. I haven’t touched drugs in 5 years.. I stopped lying and overcompensating completely.. I haven’t tried to kill myself in a long time.. I stopped hurting people.. and many of my other bad habits stopped as well. I wasn’t a good person back then.. but now, I’m a genuinely good person, and I can actually say I’m proud of who I’ve become. I just wish you could be proud of me too. I understand that there’s a conflict of interest, and I do understand why. But that doesn’t make it hurt any less.. you know? It hurts to have your parents not be proud of you. It hurts to have your siblings not want to have anything to do with you. It hurts that the one thing that has made me happy has driven you all away.. and it hurts that I can’t do anything about it.
All I can do is live my life and try to build my own family out of friends and people I’ve met along the way. I have four pseudo-moms, a street dad, several “brothers” and “sisters”.. but it’s just not the same. They’re not my real family.. and no matter how many times they call me “son” or “brother”, it doesn’t replace or change the fact that you guys never will.
I’m beyond the days of getting mad that you call me by my birth name, refer to me in female pronouns, and send me cards that say “daughter” on them. I’ve come to terms with the fact that you never will see me or accept me as anything else.. I’ve accepted it.. but it will never stop hurting me.
I just want you to know I wish so much that I could be the person you all want me to be. Then I wouldn’t have to be alone. Then you’d be proud of me. I’d have a family again.
This is not a choice I’ve made.. because if I had the choice, you can bet I never would have gone down this road. Losing my family was a risk I had to take in order to be happy. It’s a risk all people who transition take. Among all the many other risks. We would never choose this life if we didn’t have to. No one wants to be discriminated against or at risk for being the victim of a hate crime.. no one wants to lose family, friends, jobs, places to live, or basic human rights (in canada, the rights of transgender people are not protected). But it becomes a choice between, “okay, do I want to end up taking my life..” or “do I want to be happy but possibly risk losing everything that’s important to me?”
Most of the time, life is more appealing than death.. and for me, I just wanted to live my life and be happy and do all the things I had dreamed of doing and achieving all the things I wanted to achieve.
So I did what I had to, to feel like I was finally being ME.
Nobody put the idea in my head or convinced me this is who I was.. and I didn’t do this for attention (obviously.. it’s been over 5 years now) and I certainly didn’t do this to hurt anyone, especially not you.
I’m not trying to persuade you to accept me or anything, because I know that none of what I say could change anything. I just wanted you to know why I transitioned, why I’m living as this person.
I may have explained all this to you before.. I’m not sure. Maybe not with this much clarity or objectivity.. and this time I didn’t bother going into the medical aspect of it or explaining the “what”, as there is no need for it. I’m not trying to convince you of anything anymore, and all it would do is make you uncomfortable.
I just felt the need to go into the “why” now, for some reason, as well as how losing my family as a result of it, affects me.
I actually intended to write a couple of lines saying thank you for the card, and then press send.. so much for that.. heh. Verbal diarrhea. I’m a writer. I guess it happens.
Anyway, I know that with regards to this person I am living as, things between you, the rest of the family, and I, will probably never change.. but that doesn’t stop me from hoping.
Because I miss my family. As dysfunctional as our relationship has pretty much always been, I’ve always wanted to be part of the family, and have always longed for your approval and acceptance.. and every holiday I spend alone, I never fail to think of all of you and wish I was there. Wish I was with my family around the christmas tree. Or eating turkey. Anything, really.
I just don’t want to feel like an orphan anymore.
I’m still here.. I’m still the same person.. my body may be a bit different and I may go by a different name.. but I promise I’m still your child. Still your blood. That will never change.
I love you, and I hope you’re doing well.
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